|According to a new book, you only need TWO sentences to get your kids to tell the truth. And if the secret to parenting really boils down to THAT, I guess we've wasted a lot of time and effort using other methods!|
Erick Barker is the author of a book called "NurtureShock: New Thinking About Children". And he says you only need TWO sentences to get your kid to always tell you the truth.
When you think your kid might be lying about doing something, tell them: "I won't be upset with you if you did it" and "If you tell the truth, I'll be really happy."
Barker says those sentences significantly cut down on lying because, quote, "Young kids are lying to make you happy, to try to please you. So telling kids that the truth will make a parent happy challenges the kid's original thought that hearing good news, not the truth, is what will please the parent."
If you DO use those sentences, then you really CAN'T get upset about what your children did and you'll have to be GENUINELY happy (or at least be a good faker) about them telling you the truth...or YOU'RE lying!
Meg likes THIS sentence better because she sees it as more truthful to kids: "I'm about to ask you a question but before I do that, will you promise to tell the truth?" Although THAT sentence only cuts down on lying by about 25%.